You are giving him all the benefits of a relationship without any responsibilities whatsoever. Everything seems to be going good for the most part, we hangout about three times a week usually 3-5 hours at the most. It got me very excited, and I felt like, well, maybe it was going somewhere. We can see how his behavior would be confusing to you. Also when you say not monogamous, do you mean being intimate with other people as well? He often told me he needed that time to decompress. Your advices are extremely relatable and helpful, keep it up! I felt somewhere along the way, he lost some respect for me, because I tried to end it like 2 times, but then came back. Then we saw each other a few times, and we ended up having sex.
Your story is similar to mine. Like he said, things just change the minute the relationship is labeled the way it happened with his soon-to-be-ex wife. Quote: Originally posted by Leykis1o1 i feel i should slow down. It does take a considerable amount of time to answer your questions thoughtfully and thoroughly. We txed for like a month , when he finally step out and asked me to finally figure out how to see each-other. Why in gods name do I need a stupid label or title when this man is giving me every inch of everything I have ever desired in a man or a relationship with the pressure and scariness of a title. Perhaps he views you as wonderful company and has feelings for you yet not as a future partner.
I accepted this without drama and went no contact but we then saw each other on a night out shortly after, he saw me talking and dancing with another guy. We recently had sex for the first time and it was amazing. The references to his ex could be motivated by many different things. Long term, long distance relationships are basically impossible, so be careful here. I was with him every step of the way-surgery, chemotherapy, staying with me as he needed care and support.
He is doing everything a guy does when he cares about you and considers you a girlfriend. Okay so iv'e known this guy since we were like 10 i'm 17 now and we are best friends. I remember back in college that during a summer break my relatively new boyfriend and I had to be apart for a few months. During hunting season, he travels to hunt- he hunts all day, eats, dreams- lives hunting! I am already letting him go, and feel so disappointed I wasted nearly 2 years waiting for him to offer me a relationship. There's no scientific explanation for that; that's just being annoying. Maybe you and your 'friend' should just take a little bit of time away from eachother.
One day, feeling brave, I peeked at one of his papers he was turning in so I could catch his name without asking. Unsure of where we were, I decided to go on a date with an ex. Is this a reasonable approach? You kind of just have to grin and bear it and ask him out if that's what you want. I have been in your situation sooo many times and I have been in his situation. Hi Liz, I am into astrology too, but aside from signs indicating compatibility, there is our free will which is not under the aegis of God or astrology or anything else. Hi guys, So I also have a question about my best friend.
Is it because he wants to still date other women? You have to learn to go your own way. I don't think you are overreacting. In this first phone-call I was excited to hear from him and felt naturally bubbly and asked simple questions about his week and travels to keep conversation interesting. I asked him of he would like to meet up here and there for a movie etc. Flash forward two months, which brings us to where we are now. When i look at my friends who are in a serious relationship, either one of the girl or the guy or both of them live on their own.
Meeting kids, staying over, making changes when your partner brings up an issue — those are all great signs. Once he saw me there, he asked if we could talk. I think your male coworkers are right. He said that the situation has screwed him over and he is constantly thinking about things and I am not one of the things. When I asked him why, he said that he preferred to just be in my arms.
I told him i would never hurt him. How does he behave towards you the majority of the time? Last week I made the mistake of asking him where things were going. I told him 2 days later tht i left the other guy and ever since we became like a couple. He did call me his girlfriend and we have done everything together as a couple, but he would never talk about the future or marriage. After that he had somewhat of a confession. While eating, he said that he is only happy when he is with me.
What drove me over the edge though was a party we went to not too long ago. She and I hit it off pretty good a couple months ago and had a real connection. I texted him: would he like to bring his son to my place for dinner the following night and I would make dinner for the 4 of us my child too. Few after he started open up and telling me about his ex relationship and what he gone through. Just this past Friday after everything he told me he wants to be friends. Ok So ive been talking to this guy for the past two months that i have been seeing alot. The only thing the object of your affection owes you is honesty.