Prompeian red and soft olive were recommended for draperies. Seeker7, Had I been born in Victorian times, I'd not have lived long after puberty. He also inherited all her money and goods on marriage and was free to spend her wealth on mistresses, prostitutes, gambling, drink or whatever else took his fancy. Especially if they've seen a performance or movie before, you just can't get some of them to shut up! When a gentleman is seated in a restaurant and a lady acquaintance enters and bows the gentleman should return the bow while he remains seated, if the lady stops at his table the gentleman shall rise and remain standing till she departs. Who knew that a horseback riding date contained so much responsibility? A girl was under her mother's wing for the first few years of her social life. Premarital sex was tolerated in such cases, because announcing an engagement was considered a verbal contract. Place glasses at the right of each plate.
Hi Rosemay - as always it's a great pleasure to hear from you and read your interesting comments. There was a lot of value placed on having proper etiquette regardless of whether you were lower or upper class. Financial or family circumstances might delay or move up a girl's debut, though typically, she came out when she was seventeen or eighteen. Ironically, these rules were based upon the norms of the 18th Century European aristocratic society which the middle class had supplanted and rendered obsolete -- and tended to disdain for its decadence and effeminacy. Victorian Table Etiquette Here is another article from a Victorian, vintage 1890, cook book covering proper table etiquette. A thin, unbuttered slice of bread rested on a napkin to the left of the plate with an individual salt close by. Celery, cresses, olives, radishes, and relishes of that kind, are, of course, to be eaten with the fingers; the salt should be laid upon the plate, not upon the cloth.
The knives and oyster fork should be placed on the right side of the plate, the other forks on the left. However, the lady could never give a present to a man until he had first given her a present. This lady remained single for the rest of her life and had a great time being free. These folks fascinate me but they also anger me as well. For two years, a widow was expected to wear only black, and it was considered gauche for her to remarry, attend any recreational activities or socialize in any way outside of church activities. The history of valentines, research, articles, posters and handmade reproduction cards. Wait on them, instead of being waited on.
If attacked by ruffians, a man should be able to defend himself, and also to defend women from their insults. However, the use of the dressing room was to ensure she had everything she needed to look good for her husband. Near the end of the section there is generally one curt letter of refusal to a marriage proposal. He had to be re-introduced by a mutual friend. After all, men are just trying to please you.
It was arranged in two rows: top row. This will prove efficacious in making the complexion clear and transparent. Friendship and Group System To-day no trace of stilted artificiality remains. A guide for suitable and correct behavior in all circumstances. Do not twirl your goblet, nor soil the tablecloth by placing bones or fragments on it. She then rose and the gentleman seated most conveniently or a servant opened the door for the departing women. In Victorian culture, however, most couples would wed having spent little time alone together.
If a man wanted to admire a necklace for example, the woman had to remove it and hand it over for inspection. Saturate the hair and scalp with this two or three times per week and you will soon have a head free from gray hairs and dandruff, while the hair will be soft and glossy. I would never have survived in that kind of environment. Such recognition should, however, generally be avoided, as gossip is likely to attach undue importance to it when seen by others. Many men of that time I think just had to be in control and keeping women down fed their egos! It is a mark of vanity for a lady to exhibit any anxiety to sing or play. It's regarded as one the traits of a civilised society.
Corsets were cruel and deforming. That's a really interesting comment about the 'rule of thumb'. This is certainly not altogether pleasant, and it is better to cut it, a bit at the time, after buttering it, and put it into the mouth with one's finger and thumb. Intelligence was not encouraged, nor was any interest in politics. It was evident to many even then — social critics of the time popularly mocked the more ridiculous elements of Victorian society. Soup is always served for the first course, and it should be eaten with dessert spoons, and taken from the sides, not the tips of them, without any sounds of the lips, and not sucked into the mouth audibly from the ends of the spoon.
Usually the tone of the letter is vague and contains assurances that the honored lady thanks the gentleman for his offer but she cannot accept his proposal. Even the fashions of the day, like tight corsets and hoop skirts, symbolized the rigid structure women were expected to live within. Proper women never rode alone in a closed carriage with a man who wasn't a relative. Shall never ask a lady to dance if he has his coat removed. However, a woman could show her ankles for a brief moment if there was a lot of mud on the ground and needed to ensure her dress was clear of the ground. The women could get it bad, but I think some kids were even worse off! These cards were distributed to guests at Versailles and etiquette uniformity was established. There were specific details of when, where and how cards were to be given, received, and even if corners of cards were turned which message was given.