I'm assuming he is still living at home so they still have some influence over some of his behavior. By allowing them to hang out together, supervised, you're not giving them a reason to sneak off. He must be quite responsible himself and care quite a bit for you daughter. I think the best thing that you have going for you is the fact that you have an open line of communication with her and keep talking to her. You dont want to keep the leash too tight. If you don't like the answers you don't have to hang around on a Mothers site. If you allow her to go to his parents house, talk to them.
There are household rules for a reason, and mostly it is so that the household runs smoothly and respectfully. It seems to me that if she's doing that well, then you are doing a great job as her mother and you will continue to make the right choices for her. I was busy day and night, I found my job really interesting and stimulating and I had a great social life. This is where your other argument now fails, a mature person listens to other opinions and takes on board advice. And if you want to rise above the rest, you have to use the skills that are unique to you, rather than pining after what comes naturally to everyone else. As the parent of 4 teenagers, I have found that it's best to let them go out in groups with other kids that you trust. Challenging, but highly worth it.
That being said - I am 9 years younger than my husband. In your case, the police determined enough evidence existed, so the citation was issued. Maybe your sister is a mature 18. I started dating my first husband yes, first just as I was turning 17, so about your age now. She will not only feel like doing the right thing doesnt earn her anything but she might resent you both and then start sneaking behind your back or give up on being such a good student.
And you have been very open with her, and plus have allowed him to come over your home. I have the same rule for my boys. Losing friends is a natural consequence of this stage of your life. It's just that when you care about someone, you want to be with them every chance that you get. I don't think it's that big of a deal. There are a thousand different routes you can take to get to where you want to go. I had fallen into a cycle of anorexia.
I met him on several occassions. Children generally pick up what they see from their parents. I personally like a girl whos at least 22 because she still like to go out and have fun party wise, but is more mature than girls younger than her. Frankly,we girls had no problem with a curfew. This term means going steady, not actually going on a date, however they may want to go on dates while going out. If she really likes him and you forbid the relationship she will probably choose to see him anyway.
We always keep the lines of communication open for her and her older brother. I realize sometimes, we all need reassurance, despite our instincts. Being disappointed in yourself just means that you know you can do better. We've been dating for over 2 years now and are getting married. It really depends on the two people involved. That's why we are saying that your parents have very legitimate concerns that you should respect and listen to. Like I wouldnt mind dating women between 25 and 30 if it werent for the fact that these women are usually trying to settle down soon and find the right guy.
If your daughter has earned your trust and you are upfront regarding expectations of her and this new relationship, it will be just that an innocent boyfriend. She had told me about him a month ago, telling me that this really cute guy kept approaching her to talk with her. He has confided in me about the disasters of his friends having sexual relations, and there are many doing it. All you are doing is making excuses and arguing and not really listening to the advice from parents who have been in your situation. I can honestly say these past six months have been the toughest of my life. Mothers please do not send me hate responses for posting this.
Learning how to wait and still having that decision be your own often gives you the tools to choose to wait even longer. But i was living on my own, Paying my own bills,doing my own washing etc. Allow it, but like you are doing now. She has let her friends know that she wants to go out with him and they in turn have told him. Your parents have a right to be concerned that you and this boy are potentially breaking the law. I had to literally go to the doctor in order to get on medication that would help me eat again.